Dear Arab, WHAT DOES THIS ALL MEAN?

So, I met this dude. I decided to meet him it at his house around 10. We talked. We drank some wine. We ended up making out on the couch. All of a sudden, he’s telling me that I am beautiful. Anyways, we talked some more then I end up in his bed (clothes still on). We listen to music and continue making out. Things progress, we fooled around a bit, I somehow ended up topless and we debated having sex. He said that he wasn’t going to have sex with me. (part of me trusted him, part of me didn’t). He actually kept his word. Then things got a little weird. In between the fooling around, he told me that he was starting to fall for me. He held me and we end up spooning and I almost fell asleep there. Then I told him that I needed to go home. I needed to sleep in my bed. He told me that I should stay and fall asleep with him. It was late and I shouldn’t drive home (no worries, I was sober). I bolted the first chance I got.

-Running scared

Dear Running scared,

This guy made a classic rookie mistake. This guy is definitely not a pickup artist. Oh, he may find plenty of women who fall for his tricks and sleep with him, but I doubt he goes out on many second or third dates. He made the mistake of skipping through some steps and trying to sleep with you before he established trust with you. He said he didn’t want to sleep with you, but that was just his way not pressuring you. Trust me, it’s easier to sleep with a girl if she doesn’t think you want to sleep with her. He would have had sex if you would have let him. Never trust a guy who tells you you’re beautiful while you’re making out. He’s usually just trying to make you feel good so you’ll go a little further. This guy is not really long term material. He was trying to sleep with you right away without building a relationship first.

-the Arab